Being Single: What it's Really Like, From "Entity".

When I first read this list from Entity, "19 Reminders for the Girl Who is Afraid of Being Single and Alone", I was a bit skeptic, because, what is fun about being single for us girls, right? This list, explains it in a sort of slap of the truth, to the face, and honest, back to the basic, no, not just stereotypical, outside review, but a real, experienced and sincere influence of one's well-being. And more importantly, that of a typical, any case, scenario young woman. There are 19, just short of 20, reasons why you should embrace the freedom and exhilaration of not just being in a relationship always, and every year, but instead giving thanks to being single for once in your life, if life so wills it. Not saying that a relationship is bad, but if you are caught in the wrong one, or one that is suffocating you, instead of feeding you, then maybe, this list, by Entity, could remind you of all the reasons to let go...or to find a new freedom in being without a boyfriend, for once. Maybe it could also save you from entering into that next toxic river of anxiety, with that experience of any tossing and turning late at night cases, for some girls.

Let me pinpoint this List from Entity. Throughout life, every boy and girl, mostly girls, dream of having that fairy-tale relationship, or Cinderella shoe fitted on perfectly, "Hey, that's me!" moment. For those who are single, some, when they get older, ease out of this phase, and instead of this, focus on dreams, goals, passion and success. On the other hand, the other percentage tend to lose faith, after rejections, setbacks, or even from fear-born family relations or friendships. While, lastly, some, just haven't found "The One" yet. But for those who have, those, who've already been in the water, testing their first relationship with a significant other, they tend to find themselves in a, so to say, new form of light, as relationships are something exhilarating that every girl should always experience every now and then. But for those, who have tested it, and had a bad outcome, this percentage, however, have, the other way around, learned their boundaries. Relationships are complicated, yet fun, scary, and thrilling, all at the same time. But did you ever take a further look into what are the up-sides of being on your own sometimes, if it happens by life's choice, at some point. Entity, explains it better than no other else, with young writer, Nicole Sazegar.

Sazegar's article, in a Facebook post, is titled "To the Girl Who Is Afraid of Being Single", with the underlining statement, of one of her key notions in the list, "A Queen can rule without a King." And yes, girl indeed we can. My favorite idea she heads off though, is not exactly that noted off by Facebook posted, quote, number 16, in her list, but that of number four. It is just caught short of the beginning thoughts, but number four: "The love you can give yourself is stronger than the love anyone else can offer you," seems as far by, the best idealistic thought among the others, for my writing, here. It really stands out, because it is bluntly true, and can kind of wake you up if you need it by the way. Being never heard said aloud, regularly, or in writing, so vaguely but straight to the point, it is a easy bullseye to any troubled women, or a simple lift to a girl who just needs it, at that moment. This writer is actually, quite a genius I can say, in observing this. Her other notions are also uplifting and unique too like no. 3 "Being in control of your own happiness and freedom is an important part of being a strong woman."

However, I will talk a little about the notion no. 4 more. Most people, who are not in a relationship, are either in a time lapse, per to say, where they need to focus on them self, or either because of their sheer choice that they don't want to. We are put into situations, that make us better, always, in life. That's what God is always willing every second, if you ever heard of the "Potter and the Clay" story, in the Bible. If we don't choose a situation to make us better, eventually we will or are forced into it, because God chooses it for us. And sometimes if we are not in those situations, we must make the sheer choice, to get into those situations, on purpose. Now, if we are by ourselves, single, and keep seeing what we think are all the signs of needing to get into a relationship are, but it is not working out, maybe take a look at your life and see what is really important and needed for attention at that moment. What should you invest your time in? What do you need to work on? Sometimes God or the universe wills us on a path of needing to work on a certain part of our self first before we can be at a benefit or help to another person.

That's where this key note of "The love you can give yourself is stronger than the love anyone else can offer," comes into place. And I think it actually sums up the whole list too. If you can't accept yourself fully, then who will be able to give you that same type of love that only you, yourself, can offer, well, you. Because self-love is a different type of love compared to any other. It is a new found exhilaration and joy, once felt, and it is certainly, also a one taught, self-fulfillment. This love is the one and only love, that only, you, yourself can experience throughout your own undertakings. The love you give yourself, is the only love in this world, that matters the most in the end. Because how you treat yourself, then shows how you see the world, all together, and how you then experience and see your everyday life... and much later, in terms, sometimes, it manifests into how you treat a significant other, when it comes to a relationship. It is such a self-achievement to see your one, unique self as a "grand prize." Just think of forming a serenity to situations and yourself, then you will also master self-love. Once, you form serenity, and are okay with your own company, you also tend to notice, that things unexpected come at the most unexpected times, like even a relationship. Like when you just aren't looking for it, as listed in number 14, "You will find someone when you are not looking."

Anyways, going back to the topic of a relationship. If however, on the other hand, you are actually in a relationship though, and it doesn't go as planned, on an unfortunate note. For example, if you are in a relationship, however, that is not giving, and instead taking from you, then maybe you need to take time to yourself, too, and in the process, step out of that situation, and enjoy "me-time", instead. Not, always is a relationship an answer. Just think of that. And I think that is what this list really points out, to all of those dreaming of a Mr. Right.

There is an exhilaration in freedom that is spent for you, remember that? And I am all ears to also being in a relationship too. Don't get me wrong. That is, if it is at the right time. You will know "Love will happen when it is meant to be," as said, by listed 13 from Sazegar, Nicole. You, yourself, can tell when it is the right time, anyways, and when it is the right person. And also, remember, whether single, or taken, either way, say it and live it out proud like Emma Stone, as she so comments to Entity, a very attractive advice in another advertisement: "I remind myself to be kind to myself, and as slightly ridiculous as it may sound, to treat myself in the same gentle way I'd want to treat a daughter of mine. It really helps."

Note: Keep this list, below, beside your Lipstick in your purse. Read further.

1. You are whole on your own. You don't need another half to complete you. 2. You don't need anyone to offer you the world. You can give that to yourself. 3. Being in control of your own happiness and freedom is an important part of being a strong woman. 4. The love you can give yourself is stronger than the love anyone else can offer. 5. You are not defined by your relationships with others. 6. Being single means having enough time to invest in yourself. 7. It's more important to find yourself than to find a home in someone else. (Hint! Read my next blog, "A Review of Kasal, Bea Alonzo Film.") 8. You will learn to be okay on your own. 9. The only companionship you need is your own. 10. Being in a relationship does not always equate to happiness. 11. Spend more time with yourself. 12. Spend more time spreading your love to the people in your life who need it most. 13. Love will happen when it is meant to be. 14. You will find someone when you're not looking. 15. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of. 16. A Queen can rule without a king. 17. You don't need to love yourself before others can love you, but self-love is one of the best forms of self-care.

18. You are stronger and more powerful on your own. You don't need anyone to hold you back. 19. Find peace within yourself and everything else will follow.

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Sources for Writing:

Entity Magazine. June Issue. Facebook Page: Entity Mag. web. 18 June, 2018.

Nicole Sazegar. 19 Reminders for the Girl Who is Afraid of Being Single and Alone. December 29, 2017. Entity Magazine. April Issue. Facebook Page: Entity Mag. web. 18 June, 2018.

Sources for Images:

What Emma Stone Teaches Us about Loving Ourselves. Blog/DiscoverPeach. 2018. Web. Google. 18 June, 2018.