Mr. Perfect vs. Picture Perfect.

Do you feel hopeless at times, especially when you see all your friends in a relationship, and, on the other hand, you are single? You sometimes envy them when you are the third wheel while out at dates or lunch over the weekends. Maybe you sometimes feel overwhelmed with the thought, "Am I single forever? Is this my punishment or destiny? Do I have to just settle for this?" Let's talk about shifting our thoughts onto another slight view. Let's answer why settling for that next boyfriend, is sometimes not the advantage or worth of a temporary or momentary happiness. We are heading on the fact, that you should not rush yourself into temporary relationships or, maybe, wrong decisions, just because you feel like you have no other choice or it is the last resort.

Many girls these days are accepting the fact that they will be single for lifetime, because they feel they are not worth it, or they are too worth it, in another case, because of their passions and career goals. Either way, we are all made to be with someone, respecting the fact that many people like to be alone, and some can't live without a boyfriend for the next six months after a sudden, unexpected breakup. Here, we will talk about how everyone should find, what is truly best for themselves, in terms of giving them self the best self love first and foremost, so they can attract greater things in return, meaning the best significant other as well.

Let's talk about the most common mistake of women these days in Manila, Philippines. Actually, it is so common across the globe, in every culture, and most situations. Girls these days are so scared of being alone. We are in a timezone and age, where depression and anxiety have hit the market like a bullet hole that won't heal. Women, are too afraid to be single, because of the aggressive thought that they have to have a perfect life, and that also means the perfect someone at easy grab. With all the advertisements, media, and photos we see on Facebook, Instagram, and Television, or even the words we hear in songs, we feel like we need to have an easy life and be in a relationship right away. People believe in a picture perfect appearance of life and themselves. We need the perfect job. We need the perfect family. We need the perfect friends. We need the perfect apartment, condo or boarding house. We need the perfect situations! The perfect fit the bill, arrangements in finances. The perfect outcome in everything, and yes, that also means we cannot be alone, and we have to ALWAYS have a "Bae". Great! Yes, this is all a realistic dream! Some people achieve some of it, through hard work and dedication, or luck. However, we don't see that the people who do, behind the walls, at times have had disappointments too. There is no perfect life. At some point or another they were single. At some point or another, they've been rejected, not just by the opposite sex, but in opportunities as well. Life hits everyone hard and scary sometimes. We expect too much, and aren't ready for the disappointments at times, and we have to remind ourselves it is normal. Sometimes we need to be fully aware of what is and isn't in circumstances and situations, and that means life itself. This also goes for whether being single or not. We need to reflect that sometimes the best things are free and already in front of us, like our family and friends, or our career, and appreciate what we have, not what we are lacking. We don't always have to be in a relationship right away. We should stop trying to achieve too much perfection in every aspect of our life, that it sometimes leads to being lonely and overthinking, and wanting to settle for any other relationship that comes next, like some women do.

And, how does loneliness relate to a wrong decision in your significant other? Let's put it straight, don't expect to be in a relationship at every second, that you can't put up with yourself when you are alone. Sometimes being alone is best, and sometimes you are alone for a reason. If you don't know what it is, maybe examine your life or yourself for the fact, and look at what really needs improvement. Sometimes, God wants you to improve upon yourself or a certain situation, so you can have the best things at the RIGHT time. We aren't saying there is anything wrong with you. We are just saying that God wants your happiness and security first and foremost, before you can be ready for the right person at the right time, so all the great things in life will follow at the time needed and best for you. So don't rush into that guy you are unsure or have second thoughts about, just because you feel like you need to erase a feeling of sudden "emptiness". There are some people, who get into relationships, just for the sake! They don't want to be alone, because they feel they need a security, and are so afraid of being left to themselves, that they don't see that they are hindering what God is waiting or saving up for them. The right person hasn't come yet, for a reason. Focus on what you need to focus on in the meantime or else, then, we miss out on what we deserve, what God is really waiting to give to us, just at the perfect timing. Don't settle for less than. Wait for the guy, that you know is worth it. The one you can relate to on the same level, and helps you want to be a better version of you at the same time, and especially, the one, who fully understands the side of you that you felt like was kept secret from the rest of the world. That is your soul mate. Yes, there is such a thing! Don't listen to relationship guru's who put out the idea that we are too picky at times with our boyfriends or girlfriends. There is such a thing, as "the one". Yes, I said earlier we want the picture perfect in everything, and it isn't good sometimes, as we expect too much from ourselves, but this is only in terms of being single or not. However when it comes to choosing a guy, be very picky. The right guy who is meant for you is always picture perfect at the right time, and you will know that time. In other words, take your time. You are worth the wait in every way.

Source for Image:

Studio One. Slaam. March 7, 2018. Web. Google Search: "Perfect Couple." India. "m.slaq.am/". March 26, 2019.