Fight for Your Fairy Tale!

Have you ever heard someone tell you that what you are doing is wrong, or that even if you want a certain thing it is not fit for you or to make you a success, or that you just can not plain out do it? This article is for everyone who is tired of the negative combats of people around them. Sometimes we don't even notice that the people around us are giving us negative vibes, because they seem so kind and sometimes, even, "uplifting". However they may be "uplifting" you in the wrong way or wrong direction. If you are a person, who feels controlled, who feels deprived, who feels stagnant in your life, or unhappy, then take a look at the words you are feeding your brain each day, or even the words others are feeding you on a regular basis. Sometimes it is even people who are so close, like our parents, trusted friends, relatives, or even mentors, or "supporters". Really, the truth is that you, down right, just you, know what is best for yourself, because you are old enough already (even at ages 12 to 14), and we are supposed to make our own decisions by ourself. And by the way, God made us a brain, so we could use it. God gave us each our own "personal" brain, so we could have our own personal decisions. Someone who is supporting you, isn't someone who is holding you in a box, but someone that is challenging you and believing in you, with all the goals, that YOU, yourself choose, and those around you should be helping you become braver in the world. Because in reality, if you really can dream a certain aspiration or desire, there is nothing stopping you from grasping and taking a hold of it, to own for yourself.

Career Goals and Passions:

Do people poke at your business in career goals or the people you even choose to be friends with or hang out with, too? What goals did you want ever since you were a child or at a certain point in time that has been aching in your stomach for a long period already. You know yourself. Even your mom cannot tell what is best for you. There are many cases in the Philippines and even other countries for that fact, that parents chose the major of their children in college only to find out, that those career subjects they never took to heart and continued through out with after graduation and made a success with. There are many unemployed nurses here in the Philippines, who chose different jobs, or even failed their exams, because nursing really wasn't their first pick. If you aren't feeling something, that is a certain sign right away, that you aren't living your OWN life, but someone else is, for you. How can you ever succeed that way, with always listening to what other people say, because every one always has their own personality and opinions? The only one person to follow in the end, should be you, for your own good, as concluded then. And listening to your own guts, is also a sign of maturity too, that you are heading in the right direction, for success.

If you are one of those people, who feel like you always have to listen to a trusted person, because you are too afraid to make a decision for yourself, then maybe now is the time to spread your own wings and make a success of yourself. Successful people never won, without becoming a strong INDIVIDUAL, first.

Personality Sheds from Friends:

What about with people controlling who you hang out with? Sometimes the people guiding us whether what age we are, or even a group of friends, tend to sway us from certain people that actually make us grow and improve. Yes, actually most of the time elders, know who are the best people for us to hang out with, because they've been there, done that, seen a lot more...but sometimes in some cases, they don't. If a friend is actually encouraging you in any dreams or pursuits you have, which make you happy in return, maybe this person is someone to keep around. Or if the person or persons you like being around, may be helping you grow in your personality and attitude wise, then continue to be around their presence. Either way always keep your doors open wide, and be wise. Usually we know, what is good for us at our age, because our parents are from a different time. Also, sometimes our parents are just too scared for us, so they say words they don't really mean, in the end, even if they know they are holding us back. But even if you are not in your early twenties and you are 33, and you are getting advice, or "sways" from your friends or relatives, or even, esp. still your parents, just remember, think twice in who you hang out with. Whatever words you hear from the friends you make, stick to you. If you keep hanging out with them for a longer period of time, even if you don't have the same perceptions to start off with, you will eventually and sometimes start picking up on them.

Your Significant Other:

Are you a person who has a relationship with a significant other, that everyone says is the wrong person or they just plain out, don't feel? Well, tell them with your attitude, that they can call your relationship, whatever they so please or want to. If people don't like what you are doing with your significant other, like doing a live-in, or taking an expensive vacation, or deciding to have him or her meet the parents, whatever is on their mind, is not part of your needed worry or attention. Or if they don't want you to be with your partner, period, it is not for them to choose anyways. Because no one knows what is going on in the relationship, better than the two who are in it. So if you have ever heard of the famous Taylor Swift singer, which everyone has, obviously, and one of her comeback songs from the Reputation album, "Call it What You Want", then you will understand better of how ignoring what people say to you, proves you more success, in a relationship, and a personal life, in fact, than always doubting yourself, because of negative words around you.

There will always be people who worry. There will always be people who have concern. There will always be people who are just bored, and like to talk out of curiosity or entertainment. And there will also be those, who are insecure to you or jealous of your happiness, or want what you have. Just remember whatever stand point they are coming from, only you, alone, knows what's best for yourself in the end, as I remind... with the help of God guiding you along the way. Prayer always helps when you are actually feeling uncertain. If something gets to your head, or if you, yourself are doubting any decisions you may have, talk to God, before you think twice about it. Sometimes asking Him, to give you a sign, is a good reassurance.

All in all, just remember, whatever you hear be open-minded, but be wise. Think twice, then pursue any aspire, without anything holding you back. You have to be strong in this world. Because usually the things that matter most, take the most energy, and control. Usually the things that are worth it, are the things that we also have to fight for.

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