How to deal with Frustration in a Healthy Manner.

I will write this blog for people who don't know how to let out their anger and frustrations in a healthy manner. When we feel frustrated because of life situations or anger towards people or a certain person, we should know best how to deal with it, so it sometimes doesn't ruin us, especially if you are a person who wants to go further in your successes. If you are someone who cannot control your anger, it will let on to the people around you, and affect you in your goals and decision making. The people around you are there for a reason. Remember that. They aren't meant for your failure or down fall, but God placed them there to help you grow. And people will be on your side, if you let them, a majority of the time. Most people who get angry easily and can't control frustration, blame others and have a negative view to situations. Let's try and make you into a person who sees the world as gold, and a bright opportunity to your leverage. I list off a few notions to think of here, in this blog.

1) Go in a Quiet Room:

First on the list, is to use a quiet room that has no company, with a lock on the door, and take time to think, or just sit down and calm yourself. Maybe you can use your anger to make you more productive in a healthy manner, to let out all the pain. Scream in a pillow. Rip an old newspaper or scribble in a magazine with your old pens. Yell out the window all you feel. The people who hear will know you are hurt and what you are feeling, even they hear, but the fact that you kept the door locked and you are by yourself, gives them the sign that you have a certain respect.

2) Let it Out to the Person:

This one is the most easiest and best solution, letting out your anger to a person through communication. However, make sure you are a little more calm first, and in your right mind. Communication is always key in a successful world, and understanding. You sometimes need to tell the people or person how you are feeling, so they will know EXACTLY where you are coming from, and know how to help you solve the situation, in a respectful manner, step by step. Even if they are hard-headed, and don't want to agree to you, they will eventually take to heart what you say as the time passes. What is wrong and right, will always be at the back of their conscience. It might take a few minutes, or it might even take two years. No person can be too hard headed, for too long. We all have a weak spot. And if they are someone you need to make a reconcile with, don't be arrogant. You can write two different letters at first. One that lets out all your hurtful words and hatred and anger, and frustration, and another one that lets out your sympathy, and empathy of what you did to them and how you are saying sorry and are also understanding of their actions. Then find a way to merge the two in a respectful and descent layout, ending with sincerity.

3) Revenge is the Worst Tactic:

All in all, revenge is the worst tactic. No person succeeds in a "pot of gold", with the wrong tactics of hurt towards others. God is watching always. As He says in His Book, the Bible, leave it to him. God will be the one to show others their wrong and right. It isn't your job. Your job is just to turn the other cheek, and ignore, after you have communicated in a delicate manner to the person. Sometimes you have to show your anger however, when it is too much, but using tactics of your own to show revenge, that is a waste of your time. The world you create, is the world you will live in. If you want peace, be the peace first.

4) Hanging Out with Friends:

Actually the best steam to let out is not through yelling at a person or getting caught up in crying or sleeping it off sometimes, but when you been through a tough situation, instead, just hanging out with the people who favor and uplift you, the people who make you forget all your problems...those who make you feel like you have a worth. Maybe going out with them for lunch or breakfast, or just heading out to a movie, or going shopping. Whatever it is that you and your friends like to do, as long as you guys are having fun, it will take your mind off of thinking too much, for a good amount of time. And it will remind you of the good you still have in this world, because friendships are special. You can even use the time to talk to them for advice.

5) Meditation:

Meditation is actually praised by so many younger women these days, who favor yoga, because we are in such a busy world, and things can get to us, when we have so much on our plate. If women these days, just favor themselves for a moment's time, they can change their attitude and personality in just seconds. The only manner is just to go in a quiet room or place, where there will be no disturbances, for sure and sitting on a pillow or soft ground, and then just stopping the world for a moment with their thoughts. Just analyze what is going in the situation you are having trouble in or anger about and then think who is wrong and who is right and how to fix it, and also taking time to understand "why". Why did the person did this or why did the situation end up like that. Meditation also brings out our altruistic character, which we should show more in our daily habits in the world out there, because it will ward off a lot of problems to begin with. And people who are more peace filled are also people who have less problems, because they have a lot of understanding. Meditation helps with this.

6) Getting Busy in Quiet Passions:

Another form of meditation is also quiet passions. Do you love a certain activity, that makes you forget your problems? If it is productive, the more better, because it makes you feel more worthy than the situation you may be facing. If you need to take time to let out your frustrations or to think of a decision to make, use that time in a quiet passion. What I mean by quiet passion, when i use the word quiet, with passion, is that you are doing this passion, with a certain aspect of solitude to recollect your thoughts. Whatever it is, like painting, gardening, sewing, or even snowboarding or hiking and running for exercise, if you focus on it and a goal, by the time you have let out your steam, you will also have accomplished something. And you find that when you put your mind into something that makes you happy, you also exert a part in your brain that brings out your creative thinking, so you can think in a more flexible manner about the said situation you may be having.

To conclude, remember, everyone has problems, or this world would be so boring. A healthy manner in a way to think of it, is as a challenge, to see how you can conquer it. Use it as challenge, like in a video game, and you are the character who tries to figure out how to solve it. It is a challenge to your personality and persona, or character. And if you are someone who has too much on your plate though, even going to a psychiatrist is not crazy, or a therapist, because a stranger is sometimes more helpful to talk to then those around you, so you can think, first, of what to say to the people in your daily "bubble", after, you recollected it in the room of a licensed physician. Therapist were trained in their job, so they know what they are doing.

Source for Image:

Frustrated Angry Woman at Work. StoryBlocks. <https://www.videoblocks.com/video/frustrated-angry-woman-at-work-s-xxynngwj2ngskjo>. August 20, 2019.