Clarity and an Alpha Female.

When I was 17 I fell in love with a boy, who broke my heart. The pain was so unbearable, because I felt so alone for a period, because my best friend had moved to a new school that year. I sat in the house for six months and turned quiet to all those around me. I didn't want to be with anyone. Eventually, I instead turned this pain, into a new momentum to work harder on making myself happy and only focusing on me and my goals. This is where the word, I will now mention, as "Clarity" comes into the picture, here in this blog. "Clarity" is actually the strongest back bone for a woman, who knows what she wants in life and how to get it, because she has a deep initiative from experienced pain or hardships that were transformed into her life goals. This can be very attractive for her, goal wise. If you do not feel like you have this term of "Clarity", as strong as others, I will discuss it more here.

Living a life full of Clarity helps in every way. You do not just get it from a big hardship faced when you were 17 years old, or from a period where you experienced a break up. You can get it in other forms. If you actually keep a journal in your room after work and write everyday what is bothering you and what goals you have, you will have a better understanding of what direction you are aiming at in your life. Where do you need to go to next in your decisions? What goals do you need to accomplish with the problems that are already set in your presence? Eventually keeping a journal can even help during times where you feel a deep in-assurance in yourself and those around you. It can help you during troubled times. You will see the whole picture in a much more smart perspective of what actions you really need to take, and what is standing in your way of taking those actions. These in a long term way, actually can lead to a more successful life, if practiced as a habit over a longer period.

Clarity. It comes in other ways too. It hits hard when you realize you learned from a mistake or when you get a deep understanding of a certain actual misunderstanding also. Clarity helps us have a more uniformed clear picture of what we need to do next, always, in getting to where God plans us in our successes. How does it come and when does it serve us best? Usually during a hardship. When we come out of forgiveness or when we come out of a healing. Forgiveness towards our self, another person, or a situation. But what helps us in this new form of thinking with a more clear vision? It is the fact that you need to let go of what you can not control and take hold of what is meant to be yours in this world, and change the things that God put in your front, in order to change. How can we use the times when we come through this word, "Clarity" is up to how you want to set forth initiative in your next activities. Our initiative in our surroundings, initiative in our self decisions, and purpose both heart wise and passion wise. Yes, I've talked about initiative lately, but using it to be both internalized and externalized to the fact of remaining a true form of an upright woman, which we will call a strong independent being, now, can shine light on opportunities for you, as well as bring you a self accomplishing retreat in actions daily.

This blog is about being a strong independent you externally and emotionally, which we can term as a TRUE form of an Alpha Female. An Alpha Female is someone who knows what she wants, what to do, and how to get it. And the reason she has all of this, is because of the key idea of "Clarity".

Striving for Identity: Identity is easy in this world. We get our identity from our parents and then it is shaped by the generation and friends we are surrounded with in our early stages of life. But getting your identity in another form, like through a Church, through watching what is right and wrong and stealing certain inspirations from Books or Movies, or just reading the Bible, transforms you in a more mature light. You can see what is really attractive in a woman by opening up yourself more to your surroundings. You will see what is pleasant to be around and what is healthy in maintaining daily throughout your persona, onto others. You can then ask yourself about what image you want to take on to helping those around you or giving back to them, and especially to yourself. This can then transform to your attitude in your goals, and career wise. But you need to ask yourself "Who do you want to be in the world, for others, and yourself?"

Striving Emotionally: Actually I tackled this in my last two blogs about depression. There are hardships, small, and big, but how you handle them proves the even more of who are as an individual to yourself. You have to learn from misunderstandings, traumas, or even setbacks or regrets. This is termed as Clarity, again. Actually the more hardships you've been through, you will tend to notice, the more quiet and the more of an altruistic calm being of an individual you will take on. This can be termed as maturity. Maturity is a gift. It will lead you to be more of a role model towards yourself and any situations you encounter daily. And the more you were of help to yourself throughout your life, the more you can lead and be of an aid to others. This is called a leader and a true form of an Alpha Female, as well.

Striving in Balance: I will now talk about Clarity and Balance, and how Clarity leads to an overall balance, in leading a strong, independent woman to where she needs to be. Balance is something we tend to get from a healthy overall termed understanding of how to live in a smart, healthy way. Learning to balance what is good for you and what you can use to spoil yourself at times, both career wise, friend wise, and even in the foods you eat! Moderation is a secret, well being for success. You need time for yourself and also time for straight on hard work, regardless of the lazy life you may be comforted in. You also need time with the friends that get you up on your toes with your goals, or with fun, and even those you make you calm and set your priorities straight in decisions (like those who truly got your back). And also, remember diet is actually a big factor in playing with your mind daily. The way you eat treats and affects the way you feel. It can link to your emotions and therefore can even affect your work at your job, or relationships with everyone you encounter on a daily note and basis. Yes, moderation is not just a play-by word for safety in a busy world, but it is a way of living for those who want a uniform success easily. It is a secret note of key. If you can't play moderation in your life, maybe you aren't doing the things that are really meant for you or that you love or have passion in. Maybe you are not in the job that suits you. Maybe you are not passionate about your goal and you should choose another. Because moderation comes easy when you are leading the life that fits easily into your habits or daily ease of doing things. "Naturally" is a word that comes to those who have a passion at their work, and can easily take time off or have a break every now and then, knowing they can head straight back into the same routine easily.

That is where the picture of knowing what you want, what to do, and how to get it, takes role. It all comes easy when you have a passion and when you have an ease to what you take on. If you don't have this, find this.

No Fake Friends: Actually, this is a key note I just wanted to squeeze in this blog. When you are more mature, you will tend to learn that the people you "want" to be friends with and sometimes those that are good for you, can be very different. As you get older, you will learn who is there for you when you just win a success and who is there for you when you aren't winning anything. Those that stick by you through thick and thin, are the people you need to keep close. Fake friends are sometimes scary. They may have a hidden agenda sometimes, even. You need to keep note of who you surround yourself with monthly, yearly or just every now and then.

Also, don't ever try being something you are not in order to copy another person's way of living, because you think they are happy. Don't always copy what they do or how they do things. Be you. There is only one of you for a reason and your life is different from others, hint, hint, your situation is always different. Instead make your own statement through your way of living of what you know deep down is right, always. You can pick up pieces of other's persona's by learning what is right and wrong and what is attractive in dealing with situations, but lead your own fairy tale. Every one has their own path they need to take. Sometimes what works for others, doesn't work for you. God made your life set out only for you. That is the understanding of an Alpha Female. They know they are unique and no one else can be like them, because that is a true fact of every individual. And they know where they stand, and they also know how to respect those who are different. And an Alpha Female also strives for success, because they already found the things that make them happy, after breaking through with "clarity" in any hardships in their life they have faced. Clarity, you see, can serve as a blessing. But you can also use now, what you have in your brain already, by just reflecting on everything in your life, for a moment or even a day, or a week. Think. What do you want to do with yourself? Here is the definition of an Alpha Female from Dictionary.com:

"An alpha female is a powerful and successful woman, often in a leadership role. Alpha females are often described as intimidating by men and women alike."

Alpha Females are not necessarily intimidating on the note of being hard on others, but they are intimidating, in the fact as I have stated above, that they know where they stand and what they want, and how to get there, because of initiative. This initiative, is actually, driven as I have noted above, through the word of "Clarity". Clarity can also be termed as a new understanding or form of self-discipline and self-respect as well. These girls know what they really deserve, because of all the pain they've been through, and how much they are worth as an individual, in the end.

Sources for Images:

Sarita King. "10 Signs You Are An Alpha Woman." LifeHack. Web. <https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-signs-you-are-alpha-woman.html>. November 20, 2019.